We are creatures of habit. I know that you know this and probably have quite a few examples of this truth in your life. Some, you would even be willing to admit. Habit is one of the enemies of Growth.
I want to share with you today a topic that we commonly face at Kyle McMurray Coaching, and that is the unspoken, outwardly silent but inwardly violent battle for your Growth.
I’ve recently fought this battle and I want to share it with you. Sometimes that’s the best coaching, just sharing my story.
You’re listening to Living the Freedom Life Podcast, and today we are talking about The Growth Battle.
It’s been said that you are always growing, it just depends on which direction.
You get to choose. Either towards or away from a goal that you have. I’m a firm believer that there’s no such thing as being stagnant.
You see, everyone has goals. Everyone has an ideal self that they have in their mind. Most people don’t know how to get that person to come forward in their life. And that is where we come in. This is an area where we help people, a great deal. I love my work.
A very important truth that we teach our clients is that:
Growth and comfort do not coincide. You can either grow or be comfortable, but not both.
Growth takes motivation, willingness, honesty, (you will hear me say those two a lot), Growth takes friction and effort, it takes a desire and a little bit of recklessness where you’ve trusted some processes in your life that unknowingly are keeping you from moving forward. In order for us to grow, we have to be willing to throw Comfort aside.
Growth is uncomfortable. It takes effort toward doing things in new ways, having faith in new things, thinking in different ways and even looking at things and situations in ways we’ve never seen before.
The problem is, we like comfort. Our brain is quite amazing at figuring out things, making an easier way for us to live life, convenience is usually King. But, convenience is also crippling us.
There’s a song that asks the question, “When was the last time, you did something for the first time?” We are creatures of habit and we usually don’t like change.
Well, last week I tried something new as an entrepreneur. Owning a small business is not for the faint of heart and I want to share five takeaways from that experience.
- The first thing I learned was we are to find our own voice. Find out what makes us tick, so to speak. In other words, discover what God had in mind when He created you. When you are able to do that, offer that towards helping others. When we help others as an expression of ourselves, This is what I like to call “Kingdom economy”.
- The second thing I learned is that a successful business owner will find ways to do what others avoid doing. In recovery we have a common saying that goes something like this “I’m going to choose what’s hard today.” It’s human nature for us to seek out comfort. The more I’m willing to put in the hard work, my clients won’t have to.
- The third thing is something that I’m trying to wrap my head around. I haven’t quite learned this one yet. It’s a concept called “De-risking”. It’s the same concept that asks how do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. In other words, by taking bite-size risks, it enables me to fail forward and learn from those small failures. The question is not whether I’m going to fail or not, I’m a small business owner, there will be small failures. Not everything is going to be a success. But it’s up to me to manage the size of those failures by the bite sized risks I take. Instead of taking frequent huge leaps of faith, we are being led on a daily basis by the Holy Spirit.
- Number four is something that I share with our clients quite frequently. Unexpected setbacks are part of it. When you’re talking with someone about recovery, relapse is a part of the equation. You don’t expect it to happen, you’re just prepared for it when it does. The solutions must come from a good place and turned into learning experiences to have new proof of the old way not working.
- And finally number five really has two parts. I guess 5.1 would be get a few mentors. Surround yourself with 3-5 people that are higher caliber than you. It may not be easy for you to find them, and you don’t necessarily have to let them know that they are mentoring you. Just ask them if you can take them for coffee. You would be surprised. On to 5.2 Is when you meet with these people that you respect, Present yourself with potential mentors by showing them your work instead of asking for help while you’re empty-handed. In other words, show them that you value your own time and that you’ve put work into what you’re sharing with them. If you’re not confident about what you are doing, odds are people are not going to invest in you either.
I hope some of this made sense to you today. I may not have shared a lot of specifics about my life today, but I have shared a lot of specific things that I have learned through some hardships in my life.
There’s a better you inside of you. I just know it. And I think you do too.
But in order for that person to come forward in your life, We have to take some risks, we have to get outside of our comfort zone, we have to think outside of the box, we need to learn to see things differently. We can help with all of these things. It’s my passion. As I said before, I love my work.
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Until next time, Living the Freedom Life, this is Kyle.