Pebble in My Shoe

Ep 89

Have you ever had a pebble in your shoe? You know, like a small rock or something hard inside your shoe? It can be really annoying rolling around in there. I mean, you can push through it. You know, mind over matter and all that. But don’t worry, it will still be there later to surprise you. Who wants to take the time, who HAS the time to take off their shoe and take care of a pebble inside? There are times that I’m convinced, I don’t. So, on I go. Walking through my day, with this small rock in my shoe. Jabbing my foot every time I step. Hmmmm.

You’re listening to Living the Freedom Life, Ep 89 “Pebble in My Shoe”.  

How many times have we had something in our life, nothing major; in fact, it’s probably pretty small, just enough to get our attention and yet we ignore it? We go about life as if it’s not there. That’s like having a pebble in our shoe. 

Now there is something to be said about the power of ignoring things that don’t matter. It’s a great trait to have when you need to focus. (Getting bogged down in the weeds.) 

When I need focus, we use certain tools, keeping a calendar, using an app, even keeping some type of notebook handy to track your day seems to be a great help.

See, I’m big on systems. I love to create systems that help people, almost automated systems that help people take care of things in life. So that their life will open up in other areas, to increase their capacity in places where they are passionate.

The solution to having a pebble in our shoe is something pretty simple that all of us know. Take care of the pebble!

If we don’t pause for self-care today, we will be forced to deal with it later. 

Why then do we feel superior when we are able to push through the pain when in reality, we don’t need to and it will be better and sometimes less painful if we do.

There are only two standard answers here. 

  1. It’s not that bad” – We think the pebble is not that big of a deal. Maybe it is, maybe it isn’t. The question is, “How are you looking at it?
    1. According to Business Insider, if Jeff Bezos (the founder and CEO of Amazon) if Jeff saw a $1,000 bill on the sidewalk, he would lose money if he stopped to pick it up. b/c he makes $2,500 a second. It would take him more than one second to stop and pick it up. So technically, it would be more profitable for him to continue his day without taking the time to stop, bend over and pick up a $1,000 bill off the sidewalk.
    2. But the question is “How are you looking at it?” Maybe that’s the reason he DOES pick it up. The mentality of taking care of the little things and seeing their impact down the road is crucial. If he overlooks places where he is missing $1,000 at a time, he won’t be the Billionaire as we know him, very long.
  2. Which brings us to the second standard answer, “I’m too busy”  –  The belief of “I’m too busy” to take care of the pebble, is a lie.
    1. No one, I repeat, NO ONE is too busy to deal with pebbles in their life. Whether you realise it or not, the pebble is affecting the way you walk. Subconsciously,  you are compensating for the pebble. I WILL affect the way you walk today.
    2. It probably reveals that Priorities may be out of whack.
    3. If you think you are too busy, then you are keeping the calendar of a fool (ouch). There are some who are “Addicted to Busy”. Brady Boyd has a book by that same title that I suggest, if this resonates with you. We may need to look at maybe an inflated sense of importance or setting some boundaries in your life that have been ignored for a long time. The lie is that, things look to be more important than they are. Remember, our enemy will use all types of smoke and mirrors to get us to believe something other than what is true. In his book I mentioned, Brady says “If Satan can’t stop you, he will push you to be so busy, that you’ll want to stop.” He does that by distorting our priorities. 

We can help in both of these areas.

Something as small as a pebble can be ignored. 

But how are you looking at it? 

Do you think you are too busy? 

Will this still be affecting the way you walk today? 

Are you believing a lie? 

Can you even see what is true in the situation?

We can help untangle all of these questions and more. Hey, if you enjoy this podcast, subscribe and write a review wherever you get your podcasts. We would appreciate it, but, if you do that, you just may be helping someone else discover that they too, can be Living the Freedom Life.

Until next time, Living the Freedom Life, this is Kyle

The Sabbath

Ep 88

I was setting up a new calendar for our Practice and in the settings it asked me if I wanted Sunday or Monday to be the first day of the week. Out of habit, we usually set our calendars up by starting on Sunday, but we usually wrap up Sunday in our mind, with the weekend. It’s bundled up in the same lot. Or at least I have. Just using the word “weekend” suggests that Sunday is the LAST day of the week and not the first. It’s kind of confusing. And who is the author of confusion? Hmmmmmm.

You see, the Sabbath made it in the top 10 list. You know, the 10 commandments. They are in Exodus 20 and again in Deut 5.  So, it must be pretty important. Ya think? 

Then, it dawned on me, even before that, Adam’s first day, was Sabbath. Okay, so now I know it HAS to be important. The order was already established at the beginning for Adam. It was rest…then work. He didn’t “hit the ground running” like we’re supposed to do in the workplace. 

It’s like he was born into grace. It was his inherited rhythm of life. This is just how things are, how they work, this is how it goes. Be with God THEN go do with God. That’s it. Right at the beginning, God was saying “This is how we’re gonna roll.”

Truth is we are living monuments of what God has done and is doing. In every way, we were made for Sabbath. We need it to understand truth, we need it to assimilate, we need it in order to catch up–to process the days between Sabbaths. 

Here is the most important part of what is commonly believed about the Sabbath. It’s not a do nothing day… it’s a catch up to life day. I’m not talking about going to the grocery store or catching up on emails, yardwork, or even social media. It is reserved to give us an opportunity to catch up to our source of life. And plug into that. 

Maybe you’ve heard that the Sabbath is designed to “charge our batteries” so that we can go out there and live life. 

If you want to put another metaphor to it, The Sabbath is designed to keep our antennas connected that detect His guidance to live life. I can’t use a wireless microphone antenna for television signal. It’s not designed for that. But we DO have a specific antenna He’s given us for His Kingdom and He’s given us the power to Live the Freedom Life, we just have to “plug into it”. To make sure it’s connected. How many of you understand that you can have an antenna, but if it’s not connected to the receiver, it’s just trash on your roof. Or as Paul put it, “a clanging cymbal”.

Throughout history, people have missed the point of Sabbath, most tried to keep the Sabbath commandment without even practicing the Sabbath. They’ve missed the whole concept of why it’s there.

You may have heard these things before, and I have too, but I want to learn more. I believe there’s something major that we’re missing when we forget to live in the rhythm like Adam. 

In music we talk a lot about playing in the groove. Getting in the pocket. I want to do just that and celebrate it–practice it, the way God leads.

Sabbath is the celebration of a covenant between God and mankind from generation to generation. It’s all about getting to know the God who is the Lord of life. It’s so we will not forget.

It is a day to prepare for the week ahead…It’s the first day of the week and we are to give it to HIM. It is a tithe of something more precious than money, our time. We may get into that for another episode. 

Have you ever approached a big job and it took more than you to accomplish it? What was your approach? Did you get others involved? Of course you did. That’s a common sense model of teamwork in the workplace. You schedule meetings to gather together and strategise, it gives opportunity for leadership, direction, vision casting and clear communication. That process is important. It’s the life blood of success. If some form of this model isn’t followed, missing the mark or some flavor of failure is on it’s way. The business world has a pretty good grasp of the same concept as what is intended for Sabbath. 

People that go through life just “winging it”, are in truth, unpredictable and dangerous. Now, there is a balance in that. Sometimes you have to wing it. But God has provided you the power, the permission, and the authority to go take dominion. Don’t waste those provisions and not listen to the Captain of your ship. 

God is God and we are not; but, God and I do fit together. We share the same blood, the same breath, and the same Spirit. I need a regular time to let that sink in. I need a day to assimilate all that God has put in my path during the week. I need time to recoup, think and rethink, muse and wonder, and appreciate it all. It’s my weekly revival.

Job 42:5 “I had only heard about you before, but now I have seen you with my own eyes.” I need a day with God in the room, regardless of the turn of events…I want to see His face with my own eyes. My antenna needs His signal.

Ps 78:2-4 “I will teach you hidden lessons from our past—stories we have heard and known, stories our ancestors handed down to us. We will not hide these truths from our children; we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders.” Sabbath is for storytelling–a day to TELL what God has done and is doing–to share a meal, take a drive or a walk, a time thank Him for living in the middle of the breath of life.

Rev.12:10-11 “For the accuser of our brothers and sisters has been thrown down to earth–the one who accuses them before our God day and night. And they have defeated him by the blood of the Lamb and by their testimony. And they did not love their lives so much that they were afraid to die.” Sabbath is life in the middle of death… it makes me think Kingdom things.

Keeping the Sabbath and keeping it holy, is not about the rules, it’s all about focus. I still begin with coffee, but the rest is up to God…the intent is to eat and drink and love and live, assimilating ‘God things.’ It’s a set-aside day, a holy day–my day to be like Adam on the first day.

Living the Freedom Life, This is Kyle

Are You Good Enough

Episode 86

Okay, before we get started with today’s episode I want to teach you a little something that’s very important to me in my coaching practice.

 Point your head, right at your temple. And repeat after me. “This is my thinker. And my thinker is not my knower.” 

Now, point at your heart and repeat after me. “This is my knower. And my knower is not my thinker.”  

I know it seems elementary but stay with me. Point back to your head, “My thinker tries to be my knower. But my thinker is only my thinker. It’s not my knower.

Now point to your heart, or your knower, “My knower doesn’t really need my thinker to know. Even when my thinker wants to be right, I still know.

Now, that little exercise my friends, will come in handy later. It’s okay, You can rewind so your thinker can catch up. 

On today’s topic, Do you ever feel like you’re just not good enough? That life requires more than you have. In many areas of my life, I mean, this is real. I feel like I don’t have what it takes, often. Most of the time. 

There have been books written about this, and there’s definitely a lot of podcasts on this topic. 

But lately I’ve been thinking about this differently. Because not only am I a Certified Life Coach, I am also a client. There are a lot of days where I feel that I don’t measure up. 

You’re listening to Living the Freedom Life podcast # 86 and today we’re asking the question, are you good enough.

An Open Hand

Ep 85

Have you ever been in your sweet spot? Have you ever been doing something and thought WOW, this is what God created me to do. You’ve found your rhythm. 

Now if you haven’t, don’t worry, just get ready. It’s coming. But I want to hopefully save you some heartache if you ever get stuck. 

But if you know what I’m talking about, working in that sweet spot of your life, and then things just kind of stop. You don’t get to do that enough. The project loses its steam, or no one finds interest in the thing you were so excited about. It’s deflating. It’s defeating, and it may even put you in the position to start asking God, “Did I even hear You in the first place?

See, I’ve also been in that place too. Things just kind of fell apart after years of research and hard work. I thought, “God, I’m pretty sure I heard you in this. I thought I was hearing Your voice. This is a flop! Why? What did I do wrong? How did I mess this up?

Well, I have news for you. Just because something excites me and I work hard at it, doesn’t mean that God is going to grant me the thing I think I want. 

Yes, we can talk about someone’s momma telling their little precious they sing purdy. But that doesn’t mean that after years of voice lessons, and singing in front of 30 church members, means that they are going to land a recording contract and go on tour.

We have to take our focus off of our definition of what success is.

This has everything to do with how we define success. And when we don’t achieve it, then we blame God for not ordaining or blessing our hard work. Very few times do we even consider what God’s definition of success for our life is. Now the question becomes who is serving who? Are we the ones dictating how God is supposed to “bless us”? That’s a dangerous thing. 

One of the main keys to any success is to keep going once you start. Sometimes, it’s really that simple. Not giving up will take you very far, so it’s important to develop a habit of consistency.

Always walk with an open hand. Let me explain what I mean by walking with an open hand. 

It may sound silly at first, but bear with me. 

God, is a supernatural being and His part of this is usually supernatural. He can and does interact in the natural (they are called miracles, by the way). He certainly can do that. But usually He takes action in the supernatural. 

Let me explain something else to you. Yes, if you are a Christ follower, God has breathed life into you and awakened your spirit, so now, you are a supernatural being too, but we mainly interact in the natural because, we are natural beings.

God’s part, He mainly interacts in the supernatural. and our part, we mainly interact in the natural. Here is how it usually plays out. By faith, our part comes first. There is God’s part, there is our part, and our part comes first. 

So what that means is that you need to give your goal the time and effort that it takes.

That’s the only way to achieve it, seriously. I’ll put it this way, we cannot achieve it if we give up.

But remember, walk that path with an open hand. What do I mean by that? Well, if I’m working on something or I have a goal and I am clenching it in my hand, in other words, If I am taking the ownership of this, then I’m not giving the Lord access to it. I am holding on too tightly and He can’t be a part of it. He’s not going to force Himself to be a part of it. He’s not guiding me, I’m guiding me. 

But figuratively, if I’m walking and I’m holding this project in my hands, but I have my hands open, as if I’m presenting it, I’m holding it in my open hand, then He can take it and do something with it. He can change it, modify it, He can even exchange it for something else.

You see, He’s guiding the efforts now. Not me. 

Now He is the one defining success, not me. 

In those so called failed projects that I explained before, during all of that research, during all of that hard work and time I put into those projects, on the surface it seemed like a waste of time. By my definition of success. The way I was holding it, I wasn’t sharing it with Him. I heard His voice and direction, but I quickly took over and ran with it. I didn’t walk with an open hand. 

I’m still a starter. That’s how He made me. I can’t deny that. 

The middle can be hard. You lose some steam. You feel more doubts. If you give up, you may be missing out of His definition of success. Which by the way, is ALWAYS better. 

My part is being consistent. The world wants you to work harder. . . to make it happen. I may have a little success, but mainly end up tired.

If you are discouraged today, let me encourage you to keep doing what you are doing, stay consistent, but walk with an open hand. 

Let Him guide you. When you get excited about it like I do, get others involved. Go have coffee with someone and let them know what we talked about today. Ask them how they see your part and God’s part in this.

“There is safety in the multitude of His counsel” (Prov 11:14, Prov 15:22, Prov 24:6)

I intend to follow that today. 

I intend to Live the Freedom Life. Until next time, This is Kyle

Something’s Gotta Change

Ep:84

Have you ever reached a point where you’ve told yourself “Something’s Gotta Change”?

With everything going on nowadays, it may be a more common statement than I realized. There’s a lot of tension in our society right now. Including the weather, power outages, food shortages, boiling restrictions on water, Patience wears thin. Intolerance is at an all-time high with our society. Everywhere you look, there is a flavor of division, it’s everywhere. Unity seems like a pipe dream. We are a divided nation and it’s much more than politics. You’re listening to Living the Freedom Life, ep 84 and today’s title is “Something’s Gotta Change”.

Have you noticed that people are a little more on the edge than usual? It feels like there are more and more people willing to be rude, to provide contrast, or some may call it, bringing it to your attention so that you can be informed. Don’t worry, I’m not going to use the word “fight”. There is an air of superiority with a lot of people right now “because I know better than you so I’m going to let you know” in our nation right now.

I can’t tell you how many rude looks I’ve gotten and times I’ve gotten bumped into while shopping. It feels like a day at the NASCAR races when you push your cart down the aisle. People bumping into your cart, rolling their eyes if you stop to look at anything on the shelf because you are now in their way. Parking spaces stolen, line jumping, some random person giving you the WrestleMania stare while they take the last bag of tortillas off the shelf that’s right in front of you. 

I’m not making this stuff up. This is Texas. We are serious about our tortillas. 

Why do you think that shopping online is so popular? That’s right, people, not you of course, but the general public, they are rude. If we shop online, we don’t have to endure people. 

At first, I thought it was me. I thought that I was the common denominator with all of this rudeness I was seeing. 

Am I just THAT much in the way? Am I THAT much of a burden to the general public? 

If I were blocking the entire aisle with my cart, trying to decide which Pepper Jack slices to get, the 12 or the 24 pack, hmmmmmmm, let me think about this for a minute, oh yeah, I wrote it down somewhere, now where did my sticky note shopping list run off to? Completely oblivious to any traffic around me…

If I was that guy, then yeah, maybe so. But no. I’ve got my list, I’m efficient. And if it’s crowded, I only get what I need and get out. I’m not one to dilly dally and “see what’s new” on the shelves while the world is trying to get home and feed their family at the same time. 

Is this a rant?; maybe so.

But then, I stopped and meditated on this thought. Not while standing in the aisle, not even while I was shopping, I took some time to think about this later…much later.

What do you lay your trust in?

This is actually a common question that Jesus asked, no matter if He was talking to a leper, a poor beggar, or a high-profile church leader. He wanted us to realize the answer to this question. He already knew, but He wants us to see this about ourselves in the moment. 

When a crisis hits, what do you lay your trust in? It’s an important question and even when we know what the “right” answer is, we stray away from it before we realize it. 

When the last parking spot is taken by someone else who whipped right in, when the power is out and the temp hasn’t been above freezing in three days, when the grocery stores are completely empty and it looks like it won’t be anytime soon when they’re restocked; what do you lay your trust in?

It’s a very important question and trust is at the base of it. 

There are 4 elements of trust. I want to share these with you today because I think they will help you, they will help you answer some questions about yourself if you dare to ask them. When you do by the way, growth will be the byproduct of this when you do it. https://www.oregon.gov/ode/schools-and-districts/grants/mentoring/Documents/3.TheFourElementsofTrust.pdf

The 4 Elements of trust are pretty simple but without them, trust can’t be present. 

  1. Consistency – In this context, we don’t like surprises. In order for us to trust someone, we have to experience consistency.
  2. Compassion – We have to believe that someone else has compassion on us.  In some cases it’s something as little as acknowledgement of awareness. Just being aware that you’re in the room can be enough. We need to believe that someone understands us. 
  3. Communication – We not only want to be understood, but we want to understand as well. Clear and frequent communication is crucial in building Trust. 
  4. Competency – We need to believe that the people that were around are competent. That they are able to not only understand, but they are capable of doing what we are expecting them to do, or at least do their part.

Without these four elements, it is nearly impossible to build trust. When we don’t see or experience these four elements, we tend to rely on ourselves more and more. 

We know ourselves the best and in some areas, we may think that we are the only ones who are worthy of our trust. Which means that our trust in everyone else, erodes away to the point of not trusting anyone. 

This doesn’t happen intentionally, but we have to be intentional to prevent it. 

What do you lay your trust in? For some people, it is themselves. When you see all this rudeness going on, all of this division, all of these power struggles, striving to get ahead of the next person, all of this unhealthy do or be done mentality. 

What do you lay your trust in?  It’s very revealing. 

You see, Something’s Gotta Change. All of this tension, all of this “awareness” that’s going on. Something’s Gotta Change. 

Do you know how that change will come? 

Through the only thing that you can control, you. Yes, Something’s Gotta Change and with something this big, the answer is always the same. 

Sometimes when things need to change, people get bitter, rude, and extremely vocal. Other times when things need to change, it’s mostly within ourselves. That is what we can control, is ourselves. Sometimes we can’t control what is going on outside, but we can control how we respond. 

A very common saying that we have in the coaching world is,”be the change you want to see”. 

If there is something that you want to see changed, exemplify that. The world just maybe waiting for you to be the first person to do so. You may be the trendsetter. You might be the one who starts a chain reaction of change that just maybe, just maybe, will change the way other people respond. 

Yeah, Something’s Gotta Change and it’s usually me. 

We are out of time, but today, let’s go out there and Live the Freedom Life. 

You just may be the answer the world has been waiting for. 

Living the Freedom Life, this is Kyle

Embracing Failure Alone

Episode 83

I don’t like to fail. I’m sure you don’t either. But I have and I do fail. A lot. It’s difficult for me to keep moving, to keep trying after I realize that I have failed. Sometimes, I refuse to see it when it’s right in front of me. The most dangerous part about this is that most times when we fail, we face it alone. You’re listening to Living the Freedom Life, ep 83 and today we are talking about Embracing Failure Alone.

Well, today I would like to talk about Embracing Failure. 

When I think of someone embracing failure, I think of one of my favorite people. 

Thomas Alva Edison He has a Birthday this week. He was one who never got discouraged by failure. 

He holds almost 1100 patents on his inventions

He was the youngest of nine siblings.

At an early age he developed hearing problems and by the time he was a young adult, he was partially deaf. That strongly influenced his behavior and career, which led him to be one of the greatest inventors in two centuries.

You may be familiar with the Phonograph = This mechanical machine Recorded audio onto a wax cylinder and you could play it back. I have a canister that once held one of those wax cylinders sitting in my office. It took Edison over 800 failures to have this famed success of the Phonograph. Aren’t you glad he learned to embrace failure and kept going?

Another invention of Edison’s, the Mimeograph = The Mimeograph is interesting because it led to something that will soon be phased out of your office (if not already), the printer. 

Centuries ago, The Gutenberg printing press was purely mechanical. Edison’s Mimeograph was electronic. Edison had over 250 designs before he reached a successful stencil and copy with the Mimeograph. Aren’t you glad he learned to embrace failure?

Another invention of Edison’s was something he called the Electric Pen. Now the Electric Pen didn’t have much fame at the time, but you benefit from this everyday, in fact, right now. 

The Electric Pen laid the foundation to modern day electronic memory, in other words, the memory on your phone and other devices stemmed from Edison’s over 1,000 failures in the design of his Electric Pen. Aren’t you glad he learned to embrace failure?

And, before Alexander Graham Bell invented the telephone, Edison paved the way for him and came up with a way to transmit four signals on one wire for the telegraph. But, Edison found approximately 50 ways of how it shouldn’t be done.  Once again, embracing failure.

The Kinetoscope which led to the projector and ushered in the silent movies, he devised several plans to synchronize sound with moving pictures. That took many failures before success.

Last, but definitely not the least of Edison’s inventions is the infamous light bulb. By studying The Sun’s Corona emissions during a solar eclipse in the Rocky Mountains, the vision for Edison’s incandescent light bulb started. It wasn’t until 15 years later was he successful in the light bulb. 

One of the most famous quotes of Edison, and it is my favorite. It is the anchor of this episode. Edison said “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.

Once more, Thomas Edison wasn’t alone. He always had at least one other person along side him. Oh, at first, he thought it was to supplement his hearing ailment. Then he learned that another perspective was important. Peer pressure to succeed and synergy was important too. But one of the most important of those character traits that ‘ol Tommy and his team had, was trust in each other. Sure they had differences but they learned to appreciate them and saw power in that. 

They learned together that failure isn’t just an answer to our efforts. We often look at our failure as a permanent answer when we try something new. We don’t like to fail. That’s the reason most people don’t like to try new things. Then we complain that things are always the same. We convince ourselves that there is no use in trying because there will always be failure. And remember, we don’t like to fail so we don’t try new things. If that were the case, we would still be living in caves and tents.

Thomas Edison learned that failure was a mere recalculation, to steer us toward a solution, to succeed and he learned that we should not do it alone. 

That’s why we offer what we offer.

Failure can tell us not only about what we’ve done isn’t successful, but it can begin to tell us about who we are. 

There is a big difference between failing at something and thinking you are a failure.

There is always recalculation.  

We hope that you understand that everyone faces failure.  

We hope that you aren’t facing failure alone.

If you are, we want to help.

Until next time, Living the Freedom Life, this is Kyle.